Updated: Jan 23
In this episode, you will learn 10 FACTS about Ruth, what age she would like to go back to and what advice she would give herself at that age! We also talk about the main causes of body image issues, how they come up and how she overcomes them. And we discuss what aging means to her and to her body.
You can READ the interview transcript HERE
10 Facts About Ruth
(at the time of the project)
1. 45 years old.
2. Ruth is a single mother of two wonderful boys.
3. She was born and grew up in South Africa.
4. Ruth left South Africa in her early 20s and moved to London.
5. She lived in four countries – South Africa, England, the Czech Republic, and now Australia for about 15 years.
6. Ruth is very optimistic as a person and has a glass-half-full view of life.
7. She loves water sports - ocean swimming, kayaking, rowing, and dragon boating.
8. Ruth also did figure skating for 10 years when she was younger,
9. She is very into personal growth. Learning and keeping an active mind and mindset are incredibly important to her.
10. Ruth is introvert and small chats are not really her thing. But relating to people one on one is very easy for her. Being an expat she values friends, family, and community a lot.
Watch Ruth’s VIDEO interview HERE
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Well, negative body image, even the word means you don't feel good about yourself. So I think deep down, you know, there's insecurity. So you're probably looking to validate yourself through others, whether that's friends definitely in an intimate relationship, and you're not feeling good enough in your skin. So I think it impacts a healthy relationship.
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Hello, everyone, and welcome to my body, my story, podcast. And today with us Ruth in the studio. And while she's sitting in the makeup chair, and Chitra is doing makeup for her. I'll be asking her a few questions. Hi, Ruth.
Welcome to the studio. Welcome to the project. And let's start and tell us 10 facts about yourself.
Thank you. It's lovely to be here. Well, I'm a 45 year old woman. I'm a single mother, a single mother of two boys, two wonderful boys. I grew up in South Africa, and moved in my early 20s to London. So I've lived in and then I moved to Prague for bits in Australia. So I've lived in four countries.
Oh, wow. So it was…
South Africa, England, Czech Republic, Republic and Australian.
Yes. Yeah. Yeah. And I've been lucky enough in the years, you know, to have a really good career solid foundation. And I really love what I do and work and work and people role. I work with amazing people. And I'm very fulfilled I guess a couple of facts about me. I don't even know if I have facts, but just who I am. I'm very optimistic as a person. That's a good one. Yeah, I think no matter what, challenges come my way in life, and we all have challenges and you know, there's been trauma and they've been things to get through. Yeah, always have sort of a glass half full view of life. Yeah, and I love watersports. I've always found I'm very much into ocean swimming at the moment in doing that for a good couple of years, but before that was kayaking, rowing, dragon boating.
So water sport?
Yeah, love water sports.
Did you do any competitions or just you do it for your own pleasure? And health?
Yeah, a little bit of competing with dragon boating. When I was younger, I did figure skating so I guess that's frozen water. Yeah, figure skating. Yeah, for 10 years. I love that competed.
Would you be able to do some pirouettes?
Yeah, I think so. If I had some good boots and good, good. blades that were
I have ice skating boots with me. Is there any ice ring in Sydney?
Yeah, I've been once or when I came here. Like, I don't know, 15 years ago, it felt a lot more flaky. When I was 17 Yeah, like everything was a totally, totally. Yeah. And and yeah, I'm very into personal growth. I think learning and keeping, you know, an active mind and mindsets incredibly important to me. And things that are important to me are friends and family and community. You know, being an expat not from this country. Friends, friends are my family.
So you said you moved in your 20s. So you've probably been here for quite a long time. How did you find the process of finding your community? So how did you do that? Was it hard for you? because what I learned that a lot of people on who come to our project, a lot of women they say like it's hard to make friends and connection. We're talking about Sydney in particular. So what's your..
what's my view on that? Well, I moved first to London and that was quite easy in my 20s so there for about six years and it's a very, you know, very vibrant city so I didn't find Not terribly hard, moved to Sydney with my husband at the time. I think I was 30. And I guess it wasn't hard, but it, it wasn't hard to integrate, because we went from sort of open arms into a South African community, which is quite typical. But it took a good few years to make friends outside of that. Yeah. I think work helped having kids helped. Largely to this day, my friends are still quite, you know, they're British and South African. They're a little handful of Australian friends butted around. And a couple of you know, yeah, just European friends as well. Just wonderful. So it's been hard in some ways, but I think I've always made friends in my work as well. Amazing colleagues, so
So you, you're easy. You know how to do small talks.
Yeah, I think so. I'm a bit of a bland I guess introvert and extrovert. I don't need a crowd. I don't desire it all the time. And um, you know, small chats. Not really my thing. But relating to people one on one is very easy for me. And I lack that. So. Yeah, learn to be extrovert comfortable in my skin. Yeah. And I guess having you know, those kinds of ability to relate to people creates friendships.
Yeah. Yeah. So we've got 10 facts about you. Do you have extra? Oh, you want to share?
Add unnecessary, very hard question to answer. Who am I? What am I? If anything you can ask me?
Yeah, just, I thought maybe we missed something. But I think it's quite interesting set of facts. Yeah. So let's move to the subject of our podcast, which is body image and ageing? And my first question, and that theme, is, what does ageing means to you?
Yeah, that's a really good question. And definitely not one I was thinking about in my 20s. But, you know, I've been 45 now, and it's something that creeps up on you. And I think I think what it means to me is being becoming and being really comfortable in your skin, which is both physical, you know, seeing the changes accepting them, but also mental. Really, just, and that's been my sort of area of growth, I think, in the last couple of years, just feeling more comfortable in who I am. And that comes with age, that, you know, that total acceptance of who you are, and, and yeah, not needing to prove yourself, the beautiful thing. So I think and I wish that it was more revered in older women. That's absolutely what drew me to this project. Just a celebration of women over 45.
Yeah, yeah. So you think ageing is from what I understood? From your words, it's getting more comfortable in your own skin and not paying that much attention to others opinion?
Yes, yep. I think not being concerned with others opinions is a huge thing, and allows you to feel confident and empowered and secure in your own wisdom.
We'll come to that a bit later. But also, I want to ask, if you could go back to any age, what would it be? And why?
That's such a good question. Not, I don't know, my 20s somewhere, maybe 25, I think comes to mind. And why I think I would like to be able to tell that version of myself 20 years ago, not to be scared. And I don't know if I knew that I had fears in, but I think I must have just to let go. Embrace Life. Figure out your passions and go for them. And stop being a people pleaser. Just
that would be your advice to you?
that they totally own it. Let your whole-self shine.
It's interesting that last two seasons, I asked question about what would you say to food to yourself and couple of ladies said like, okay, thirties are already more or less stable, that would be I would go to 20. So this is why I changed this question, and I asked what age you would go and you're already third person saying in my 20s It's interesting.
Yeah, so probably it's this very sensitive age where we feel the most insecure For some reason, though, I think you're finding yourself, finding your feet. And that feeling of acid and the habit of conforming, needing to conform needing to just do what society expects. I don't think I ever stopped to pause and figure out what I really wanted out of life.
It's funny that it changes with the time with age, depends on your life's life stage,
I've had a few things, you know, just you know, the force and other things happen. We you don't expect it you can't control life and, and suddenly you see laughs very differently. You repackaging yourself. Yeah, putting yourself back together.
I like that expression.
Yeah, repackaging. rebranding and repackaging, rebranding new identity.
So if, if your body could talk, what do you think it would ask you?
now, it would probably say, Well done, keep up with the veggie juices, the fruit juices every morning, but it would probably be asking me for a lot more general vegetables and cut the sugar root. Yeah, that's always been my thing. But I mean, oh my gosh, I've come heaps. If I think about, I think 19 was the first age I had a banana.
So why? you didn't like the look of that fruit?
It's probably like a whole therapy session in itself. I was just so fussy as a child. I just Yeah, fruits and veg or anything that looked strange. I didn't want so I welcome it now and I enjoy it. And as you know, crave it, which is a good thing. But more of it is what nobody would ask me for.
Are you the only child and family?
No, I've got a brother. He's 15 months older.
So what do you think are main causes of body image issues. I know you said like, if you don't sound like you have many body image issues, but generally, what do you think the main causes for that?