Updated: Jun 27, 2022
🎧 In this episode, Zinnia talks about her passion for deconditioning. It's deconditioning herself of all the rules and obligations and beliefs and values that really don't belong to her. So basically, Zinnia is making sure that she lives her life, her own way.
She also teaches other people to really live their life. Her start-up name is The Evolving Being. Because we are all evolving and constantly changing. So Zinnia is teaching people how to firstly get to know who they are, how they live their life, and how they do things, and to make sure that it is how they want to do their life.
10 Facts About Zinnia
1. 55 years old
2. Born in the Philippines
3. She was such a strong-willed child, as she was born knowing who she was, and got into a lot of trouble.
4. When she was nine, she and her family left the Philippines and went to Papua New Guinea
5. She Immigrated to Australia when she was 15 y.o.
6. Zinnia has 2 sons - 31 and 22 years old
7. When she was 13 y.o. she promised to herself to raise her children differently, the way she would have wanted to be raised, and so she did. Zinnia gave her boys a lot of hugs and a choice.
8. Zinnia is passionate about deconditioning. It's deconditioning herself of all the rules and obligations and beliefs and values that really don't belong to her. She is making sure that she lives her life, in her own way. She also teaches other people to really live their life.
9. Her Biggest challenge at the moment – “This is one word and it's menopause”
10. Positive change with age – “Wisdom. Being my own self”.
Contact Zinnia: @the.evolving.being
website The Evolving Being is COMING SOON http://www.theevolvingbeing.com/
Watch Zinnia's VIDEO interview HERE
LISTEN TO THE EPISODE:
INTERVIEW TRANSCRIPT (auto-generated):
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So I think the very most important things to find out again, find out who they are. You know, what I've taught my kids is to that they need to know who they are, first and foremost, so then they are not influenced by anyone else. And yeah, and so they live their life their own way.
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Hello, everyone, and welcome to my body My Story project and today we are having Zinnia. And while she is sitting in the makeup chair and having her makeup done, I'll be asking her a few questions. Hi, Zinnia.
And let's start and tell us a bit about yourself.
Okay, so I'm 55 years old. I have two sons, one is 22. And the other is 31. I was born in Manila, Philippines. I left when I was nine. We lived in Rebel for six years because my parents were contract teachers there.
And where did you go?
Rebel. Papa New Guinea?
Oh, wow. So you lived there? Nine years?
Six years. And so that was until 1982. And 1982 we came here to Sydney, Australia. And I've been here since then.
Wow. That's a long time.
So what are you most passionate about?
Okay. So I'm most passionate about, I know, there's a word called deconditioning. It's deconditioning. Myself, of all the rules and, and obligations and beliefs and values that really don't belong to me. So it's basically making sure that I live my life, my own way. So that's why at the moment, I'm currently working on developing workshops for our business, so I can pass on whatever skills and processes I've learned to people do the same thing for themselves if they want to.
Oh, wow, that's interesting. So what is this business name?
Oh, the business name is Evolving Being. And we're currently we're just at the start of the business. So doing the website and everything like that. But yeah, hoping to launch it. mid July, like the financial year, beginning of the financial year.
Okay, perfect. And so what's the main idea of that business?
Oh, the main idea of the business is to basically so it's called The Evolving Being. Because we are all evolving as in there's no, there's no such thing as finding an end, an end goal in in life kind of thing. And we're constantly changing. And so it's, I'm teaching people how to firstly get to know who they are as in how they live their life, and how they do things. And to really make sure that that is how they want to do their life. And it's not because the parents wanted them to be this way, or they think this is how society wants them to be. So it's really teaching people to really live their life. Yeah, that's pretty much
So everyone knows that with age we change, but what positive changes have you experienced so far?
I think one word and it's wisdom. Because, you know, with being here on earth for 55 years, you I've come to know a lot and as I was experiencing a lot. So you know that is what was where wisdom comes from? Because you've got to know about something first and to and until you actually get to live it, then it's not a felt sense in your body.
So what does it give you?
Wisdom? So it's, in some ways it gives me it's like the hindsight. So, you know, if something challenging occurs in my life, now, I have the I have the insight. And as to what to do, like how to how to go about, you know, what choices to make and things like that. Yeah.
Yeah. So you're more confident in your choices and the way you solve? Or yeah, which some issues or problems?
And what is the biggest challenge at the moment for you?
Our favourite word,
Our favourite word, but not a lot of people actually want to talk about it. And I found that even GPS, it's like, you go to a GP and they say, oh, you know, it's, that's it, you know, that's what life's all about. And, and it's almost like, there's a full stop. Well, that's it, you know, you've got to leave it like that. And I actually have gone to so many different health providers, I even went to an ayurvedic doctor. And she actually gave me a really fantastic explanation of what it's like, to be menopausal. And that's, um, she said, It's like losing your parents as a child. Because, you know, when you're a child, you're, you rely on your parents to protect you to feed you to shelter you, and all these things. And if you lose, it is like, oh, you know what now? And so she said, that's basically saying the same. It's like having to live your life without your parents. Oh, my God.
Okay, this is a positive view. What shall we do about it? According to her?
Well, I've done so many researchers into how to alleviate the symptoms, and I think it's, um, you know, it's an individual's choice, because some women that you want to go through HRT someone to go natural. So I think it's an individual choice. And I think, you know, even women, women need to talk about it. It's like, it's not a taboo subject. I think it's got to be really, I think it's got to be spoken about. So yeah, I agree completely. Yeah.
So let's move to more pleasant things. What is your greatest accomplishment so far?
I think my greatest accomplishment is raising my two boys to, like, really know who they are, and to live their life in their own terms. So that, you know, they're not, it's like, you know, they're not call it influenced by society, they're not influenced by whoever. And sometimes, you know, even I, I sometimes I suggest something and they don't really want to hear about it. They just want to do it in their own way. And I just need to get out of their way, basically, and live their own life.
And it’s hard, I know. I know how hard it is. Yeah. Just stop yourself.
I know. Sometimes I say, you know, I kind of, I said, At least listen to me, because I've lived this life. And you know, and I'm just suggesting, and it's up to you to take it up. Listen to it and take it up. So yeah.
So let's think of… imagine that you could travel in time, and you could go back and meet your 30 year old self. What advice would you give her?
I would tell her that she is a strong, courageous, and badass woman and that she deserves to be loved as she loves because, you know, all my life I had this You know, because of being told by parents and, and relatives that I'm a very hard headed person or strong willed or stubborn. And I used to view it as something negative about myself. But now it's like, you know, I am so proud that I am strong willed because it has made me live my life my own way. And yeah, so that's, that's my thing, live your life.
It's a really nice one. And what advice would you give younger women who will eventually undergo the age changes? Yeah, and reach the age we are now.
Yeah. So I think the very most important thing is to find out, again, find out who they are. You know, what I've taught my kids is to that they need to know who they are, first and foremost. So then they are not influenced by anyone else. And yeah, and so they live their life their own way. I think that's, that's the most important thing.
For me it sounds like a theme of this interview is the Frank Sinatra’s song I didn't my way
I didn't my way. Let's say that's right.
So if we would talk about body image and the idea of perfect body image, where do you think this idea comes from? And what is it for you your perfect body?
Ah, I think social media has a lot to do with, you know, influencing women as to what a perfect body images, which I don't think is quite realistic, because we all have different metabolisms. And, and we age, and our body will do what, you know what it needs to do. So I think for me, if you're going to ask about perfect body image, I think, I don't know whatever body you have when you eat healthily. And when I say eat healthily, you're not depriving yourself of food. You really love eating. And whatever, whatever type of body that takes you. I think that's where your perfect bodies. Yeah,
I would agree with that. Yeah. And what does it mean to you feeling good and looking good? What comes first for you?
Definitely feeling good. I think you have to feel good inside first, before you even look good, because, you know, you know, I can, I can wear a designer clothing. If I don't look good. Sorry, if I don't feel good inside of me, someone else is wearing the same clothes, but they feel really good about themselves. They will, it will look so much better on them than me. So you feeling good is the most important thing.
And what makes you feel the most beautiful?
I have this thing. So I feel the most beautiful when I'm in a state of full acceptance of who I am. And where I'm at. Yeah. Yeah,
I can relate. Yeah, I have like tears coming in. And my last question is, do you have any favourite quotes about being a woman?
My favourite quote is, I don't know who said it. I just saw it somewhere. But it's, um, “I am woman. I bend. I don't break”.
Yeah, the great one.